Global speaker and author, Ed Mylett, joins Cheddar News to discuss his new book 'The Power of One More: The Ultimate Guide to Happiness and Success.'

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Author Ed Mylett Talks 'The Power of One More'

and welcome back everyone to between Bells and baker machado and new york living by the philosophy of just one more. Our next guest learned the hard way The power One more can hold in his new book, the Power of one more, the Ultimate Guide to Happiness and Success. The author takes readers on a journey on how you can combine both thoughts and actions into one all to make impactful changes in your life. So joining us now to discuss is global speaker and author of The Power of one more, the Ultimate Guide to Happiness and Success. Ed Millet Ed, great to have you here. Thanks so much for joining us. So how did your own sort of personal story behind the one more philosophy really inspire you here to write this book? Thank you for having me. Um you know really? The book sent around, my dad passed away About a year ago and all these one more in my life. I learned from my father, my father was an alcoholic when I was growing up and got sober when I was 15 and when he did it, he had tried to get sober many, many different times and I finally said to him, I said dad was gonna be different, you know this time, and he said, well I have one more chance, I'm gonna lose my family, your mom's gonna take you and your sisters, I'll never forget that one more. Then when he got sober I said daddy, are you never gonna drink again? He goes, I can't tell you, I'm never gonna drink the rest of my life, but I know I'm not gonna drink for one more day. And over those years he stacked up those one more days and Ended his life 35 years sober. And those themes stayed with me and I've realized over the time in business brother that there's this fallacy that people think there's so much further away from their dreams and their life that they want this vision they have, they think they're so far away and because they think they're so far away, they act in accordance with that belief system. But what I found to be true coaching some of the top people in the world is that you're really one decision away, one relationship, one meeting, one thought, one interview like this from completely changing your life. And when you begin to believe that you begin to see those one more's No, that's such a smart philosophy. Look, one decision changes so many different components of your life you write in the book if if I ever wanted to achieve anything meaningful in your life. The strategy you must master is just one more try. Obviously that sounds a lot easier said than done. Ed. But what sort of the first step people need to sort of learn to utilize that philosophy here? Well, it's really simple. Most people struggle with their confidence. I did. That's how I got into personal development and the way that you lack of self confidence is really a relationship or reputation you have with yourself where you don't keep the promises you make to you. And so because of that, you don't keep the promises you make you lose your confidence. So to get baseline confidence, I teach people start to keep the promises you make you, I'm gonna get up at a certain time, do it. I'm gonna drink a gallon of water a day, whatever it is, Do it. I'm gonna make 10 contacts in business. Do it when you keep the small promises, you build this relationship and reputation with yourself where you can keep the bigger ones, then you gotta ask yourself what's the next level and in life we don't get our goals most of the time. I don't have a chapter in the book on goal setting. A lot of the times we miss most of our goals. We will always ultimately though get our standards long term you get your standards. So if your standard is, I don't do what I say, I'm gonna do. You gonna have no confidence. If it's I do do what I say, I'm gonna do, you're gonna be a pretty confident person. But if you shift that standard just this little bit where I keep the promises I make to myself and one more I'm gonna get up and I'm gonna do 10 phone calls today, I do that and one more, I'm gonna do 10 reps on the bench, press. I do that and one more. I'm gonna tell my daughter, I love her every day. I do that and I do it one more time. Just that little difference in shifting your standard alters the direction of your life. The difference between happiness and sadness. Success and failure is so small in life as you know, it's almost too scary to talk about. And I finally said, what's this? What's the inch, what's the small thing? It's one more stacked up over time you shift your life. And so that's sort of the premise of the book. And then I get very detailed into the strategies and tactics of how you do it because here's the truth. There's a great book called think and grow Rich. It's one of my favorite books of all time. But you don't just think and get rich, you don't just think and get happy you have to do things. So the question then is what do I need to think and do simultaneously? That produces a result. And that's what all 17 chapters of the book are really about thinking and doing together. Yes. Such a such a smart philosophy by the way, one of my favorite books. In addition, the one you just mentioned, you are the obstacle, basically the same exact thesis essentially that we are sort of basically the thing that is basically stopping ourselves when we talk about mental health and by the way, this sort of works in parallel with the mass shootings that we're seeing right now. You bring up a really interesting topic in the book and I want to read this for our viewers. You say every one of us is conditioned to return to our emotional homes, even if those emotions don't serve us well. How do you sort of feel like the mental health crisis impacting young adults here in America is really sort of works into insert of what you just said in that sentence there. I'm so glad no one's ever asked me this and you're exactly right. We fall into patterns in our life and our mind and our subconscious mind especially, which is our body wants to move towards what it's familiar with, even if it doesn't serve us. So if over time, especially when you're a child, like for me when I was a kid, there's a lot of chaos, a lot of worry, a lot of fear And I found myself even in my 40's worth hundreds of millions of dollars. Had a pretty good life, married a wonderful person, great kids. I still would get fear, I would still get anxiety. I would still get chaos. Why is that? Because it's familiar. So a lot of these young folks we have out there with social media and the negatives that people receive and you know, feeling invisible and wanting to be seen and getting angry about things, they become familiar with this anger, they become familiar with this invisibility in their life, They don't feel seen, they don't feel appreciated, they don't feel valued and this becomes a home of there's all of us watching this right now have 456 emotions we seem to get every week, regardless of the external conditions. We all know it. If you're someone who finds bliss and faith and ecstasy in your life, you find a way to get it every week. If you if it's fear, worry, anxiety, anger, depression angst, you'll find a way to feel those emotions. So the question becomes all of self help. Culture has always been about, I gotta get goals to get this jet or this house or this job or this relationship, but you don't want the relationship or the jet, you want how you think they will make you feel. And so as a culture, if we started to get more intentional about what we want to feel and what our emotions are Getting the stuff is a byproduct of that. So, we have a culture now overall of young people who are in these emotions of invisibility of anger, of wanting to be seen of competing for likes and comments and things like that that extend into their whole culture and society and 99.9% of them aren't getting the emotions they want to have and no one's working on that with them. I really believe the book can help tremendously with that. Really amazing conversation and such a pleasure to talk to you and I can talk for hours on this, but it's such a pleasure to have you on the show. And my lead is a global speaker and author of the book is called The Power of One More. The Ultimate Guide to Happiness and Success is available now wherever you buy your books.