By Spencer Feingold

Marriage proposals have historically been life-changing days that result in life-long memories. But a new survey found that lovers worldwide are no longer popping the question.

“Around the rest of the globe we are actually seeing it is more of a joint decision,” Dhanusha Sivajee, the chief marketing officer of The Knot Worldwide, told Cheddar. “People are coming together, deciding to buy the ring together, and there is less of that surprise element.”

In its 2019 Global Wedding Report, the Knot Worldwide found that Italians were the least likely to propose the traditional way with just 50 percent of couples sticking to the surprise question method. However, in the U.S., Canada, and Mexico, 80 percent of respondents said their partner popped the question in the traditional sense.

In December 2018, The Knot surveyed nearly 20,000 married couples in 14 countries to determine how marriages were planned and executed. Countries ranged from India to Peru to the United Kingdom.

The survey also found that couples are no longer asking their partner’s parents for permission to marry. The change, Sivajee said, may be more about money and less about tradition or respect.

“Historically, it used to be that you asked for the hand in marriage from the parents because you also knew that they’d be sharing the burden of paying for the marriage,” Sivajee said, adding that 90 percent of couples now pay for their weddings themselves.

Americans and Peruvian, however, largely still abide by tradition with 67 percent and 63 percent of couples, respectively, saying the parents were consulted before marriage. Less than 10 percent of couples in Italy and Spain said they sought their parent’s blessing.

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